Brahmins amd society-part 1

Rains, rains and more rains. I wonder about those living in mumbai for the past 30 odd years are tired of the rains or not? the weather is pleasant and a walk in the rain can do wonders but that's the limit. Just like the rains,there is no end to the talk surrounding my joining dates. they pissed me off so badly that i have decided to take a vow of silence.
    I hate the society more than anything else, the rules and everything else. I can't understand why everyone has to do engineering or become a doctor.  If you end up being anything else, you are not human then. The situation is worser among the brahmin families especially the southern ones. You study what they want you to, you work where they want you to, you marry whom they want you to and you bear whom they want you to. the only thing they can't control when we die. or perhaps one is dead somewhere and he hasn't realized it. their interests are your interests. you want to play the guitar. no you can't. you should play a flute. you want to attend a football camp. no, attend a badminton one instead. everything they decide. wth are we for then? you might be able to coax them out to do what you want , but then the society leeches enter into the frame. if you are doing anything that is not considered honorable by the society, then you shall be looked down upon.

    If that is one thing, the other thing is being brought up in a middle-class traditional family(read orthodox south-indian brahmin family). let me tell you some rules if you are to survive.

1: your mother is not allowed to bear daughters. even now there are some who think like this.

2: before you learn to say amma, you shall be reciting hymns and the vedas.

3: there are a plethora of rules regarding how and when a task is to be done.
example: if you want to take a haircut, you are not allowed to have it on the day like wednesday (not date) you were born, neither on friday or tuesday. you and your brother or your father are not allowed to have on the same day.you are not allowed to cut our hair in the evening. i will leave you guys to figure out if there are any days left to cut the hair.

4: boys and girls alike are only allowed to learn the carnatic music let alone knowing there exists other genres. you need to get out of the house to know there is english music.

5: you(read boys) shall have your thread ceremony at a very early age and then perform sandhyavandanam daily without fail in the morning, afternoon and the evening.

6: you are expected to excel in your studies and even a 2nd rank in your class is deemed unacceptable.

7: you are allowed to play for only an hour and watch only cartoons for half an hour. If you are in 10th or 12th, you get a discount. only half an hour. try watching or playing.

8: If you score 90% in your board exams and not 95% as they (read parents, society) , you shall be subjected to taunts for the rest of your life as you have brought a great dishonour to the family.

P.S : the post shall be continued next time if there is interest to learn more.
        if you hear about a serial killer who goes on murdering his relatives, i assure you it's not me.

When frusutration takes over

the time has come to rant. this is the perfect place for that. the past 3 months has been frustrating and what not.

1: Everything seems rosy when you get placed and have a job in hand. Parents go crazy and start boasting. but there comes a time when you graduate and you still don't have your joining dates. 1 month goes by. people start asking you . you give some replies saying next month they are going to call and so on. 2 months pass by. you are getting slightly frustrated inside but more frustrating is the part where parents ask you to call the hr and pesky relatives ask every day if the joining dates have come or not. 3 months pass by. you are going through hell not because you still haven't received your joining dates but because you have everyone breathing down upon you asking when are you going to join, pester you to apply for other companies, keep advising you all the time even though they are the 1st ones to not follow that.
i hate the relatives especially those who feel they might die if they don't interfere with your life.

2: it rains all the time here in bombay which adds to my frustrations since i can't go outside, i can't play football and so on. bloody rain. i hate them so much. the weather may be pleasant but the situation isn't.

3: all your friends have received their joining dates and you haven't. you are longing to get outside and you can't. you wish to have a new camera and you can't. you want to watch a movie at night and you can't.

by this time you must be wondering what i must be doing at home daily? well i wake up, i take bath, i eat food, i sleep. again get up , again eat food , get milk , stare at nothing and go back to sleep. this state of nothingness can drive you crazy. everyday is a holiday and you don't even know which day it is ? the only bright point was the trip to hampi.

Jobless

Well I am blogging after a pretty long time. I will put that to laziness. It's been nearly 3 months of frustration of being stuck at home, unable to move out due to rains and other reasons. But i finally put an end to it when i agreed to tour hampi with soin. We ended up touring kanchipuram, mysore and tirupati. We actually climbed our way to tirumala. I quite enjoyed it. But my chances of sighting the leopard went down the drain. The tour was pretty good. I loved Hampi. Pretty cheap going by indian stds. for a tourist place. took loads of photos too. Mysore was good too. been there before but i was a kid back then. went to the mysore zoo. I was a kid all over again. Still waiting for the company to call me. Stuck at home. have slight hopes of dslr though I doubt it.

some photos for you guys. will write more later. Good to have the football season back.

P.S : I haven't edited the mysore album yet. You can view more photos here